Zara Peerzada's strong reaction on being asked about marriage multiple times

01:06 PM | 18 Apr, 2019
Zara Peerzada's strong reaction on being asked about marriage multiple times
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LAHORE - Many single women in their 30s or older are suffering constant pressure to settle down – and some do, often to the wrong men.

“When will you settle down and find a husband and have children?” This is a question that many single women regularly face. Why don't people realise that these questions make women uncomfortable and this is not their place to ask.

Many prominent personalities of Pakistan including actors, musicians, artists and working ladies are continuously being pressurized on getting married and settle down by their family, friends, colleagues and other people in the society.

Recently, the popular Pakistani model Zara Peerzada has shared her views regarding this important issue, stating that she was being confronted with “when are you getting married?” question 17 times in just five days.

Taking to Instagram, Zara had written a detailed note about the struggle of being a young unmarried woman in Pakistani society.

“This week was exhausting. Minimal sleep, maximum discomfort, anxiety on fleek (On fleek? Are people still saying that? I hope not). This week, in a span of 5 days, I was asked when I’m getting married 17 times. Not that this in any way is a novel occurrence for the Pakistani woman. I would say, even taking fashion week into account - 17 times is a bit excessive,” she began.

“The ‘when’ always turns into a ‘why aren’t you?’ - to which, I’ve realised there is no correct response (“I’m not ready”, being the worst),” Zara continued.

This question, she says, is just a prelude to the inevitable ‘let me reinforce everything society’s told you, in case you missed the memo about The Doom of the Unmarried’ (distributed weekly) spiel masked in concern, loosely laced with horror.

“They are met with this cocked head and blank stare. Why is marriage my only goal, or the only one anyone is interested in?” she asked. The model then urged the people to stop making women feel like they’re underachieved or doomed because they are not married.

She further stated, “Stop making women feel like they’re falling behind or missing out. Stop making women feel like this is something they need to be happy. Stop thinking there’s something wrong with women who aren’t married."

"Stop reminding them that you’re watching. Stop assuming they’re unhappy. Stop assuming that even if they are, they want to talk to you about it. Stop asking women things that are none of your god damn business," Zara added.

Here is an elaborated post by Zara Peerzada:

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This week was exhausting. Minimal sleep, maximum discomfort, anxiety on fleek (On fleek? Are people still saying that? I hope not). This week, in a span of 5 days, I was asked when I’m getting married 17 times. Not that this in any way is a novel occurrence for the Pakistani woman. I would say, even taking fashion week into account - 17 times is a bit excessive. The ‘when’ always turns into a ‘why aren’t you?’ - to which, I’ve realised there is no correct response (‘I’m not ready’ being the worst). This question, (posed by whichever scumoftheearth, distant acquaintance, monkeybottom, aunt’s cousin, personstandingnexttoyouaccidentally, would never be invited to your wedding anyway, snozzwanger) is just a prelude to the inevitable ‘let me reinforce everything society’s told you, in case you missed the memo about The Doom of the Unmarried’ (distributed weekly) spiel masked in concern, loosely laced with horror. They are met with this cocked head and blank stare. Why is marriage my only goal, or the only one anyone is interested in? Friends, countrymen, strangers at the gynaecologist. Stop making women feel like they’re underachieved or doomed because they are not married. Stop making women feel like they’re falling behind or missing out. Stop making women feel like this is something they need to be happy. Stop thinking there’s something wrong with women who aren’t married. Stop reminding them that you’re watching. Stop assuming they’re unhappy. Stop assuming that even if they are, they want to talk to you about it. Stop asking women things that are none of your god damn business. #onfleek

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People were quick in supporting Zara Peerzada and many lauded her for being vocal about the marital pressure in our society.

Let's have a look at some of the comments on the model's Instagram post:

In our opinion, Marriage is a highly personal matter of an individual and everyone knows what is better of them. And especially in the case of women, one should always appreciate and encourage them to achieve big in life rather than only focusing on the marriage

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