A cycle of self-pity and over and under glorification seems to be the norm. We like feeling sorry for ourselves, don’t we. The notion of that dream of a misled decision tantalizes our taste buds.
We savor thinking in retrospection for most of our days. We enjoy the idea of being a victim, a victim to an unjust system, a victim to a conniving world, a victim to our own lack of good judgment.
It is perhaps the truth that most of us will be subjected to injustice for the most of a long course of our short lives. It is also true that the world order is in more chaos than it has been in a while. It is also true that we could have been saved from our disasters.
What, although, we cannot seem to wrap our head around is the fact that the disaster is long past. It is so long past, that it is almost time for another disaster.
Have you ever initiated a captivating argument with someone, one that is healthy and stimulating and have had the opposition make you feel like you’ve attacked them? Did you feel a gush of contrition? Did you end up looking like the bad person? In this era, a good argument one that is both fun and engulfing is something of a craving. It seems the easy way out that most argument makers find in the end is that of retreat.
It, holistically, represents the broader social water we are all immersed in. Social media websites can be attributed to this metastasizing personality trait. Social media has imbibed in us a lesson of not being accountable for what we say, to know that we may put out a statement out into the world and not have consequences. This makes for an exponential increase of cowards in the modern day and age.
We use it to make us feel damaged, we use it to gain sympathy from others, and we use it to our advantage as much as we can as long as we can. Truth is, self-pity is like locking yourself up in a room and swallowing the key.
You and I must recognize and monitor it. Einstein says: We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
And we ought to listen to the man.
